Controlling The Attitude

Yesterday, I got some unfortunate news…

And what I’m going to do is explain to you the story and what actually took place…

Then afterward, I’ll break down how I went about dealing with the negative thoughts.

Let’s go…

So basically, a client wanted to go ahead and park our project for a few months due to some logistical reasons, nothing to do with me, it’s just not the right time for them.

I was really excited to get moving on this project, not only because there’s a lot of potential to make a killing with it…

But also, we were going to be helping tons of guys improve their lives, and that’s the type of project that really motivates me.

Needless to say, I was pretty bummed out because I was really committed to this project.

Right after the call with the client, I had a coaching call with a community where I help give guidance on copywriting and marketing…

And not gonna lie, it was hard to give advice to them.

I found myself really frustrated with their questions, mainly because I was in a negative state.

I gave them the coaching they needed, but obviously, I wasn’t the normal positive and enthusiastic Nick that shows up to calls.

After that I found myself making breakfast feeling exhausted and tired even though it was only 11 AM.

This isn’t a big surprise to me, when I get into a negative state it drains me rapidly.

It didn’t matter what I was telling myself, I was still finding myself going through the same negative thought patterns…

“I knew this would happen”

“I put so much time and energy into this already”

“This sucks”'

I let myself have a pout session, feel my emotions, and then decided it was time to move on and that these thoughts weren’t serving me all that well.

I had an hour before my next call, so I decided my best move would be to take a quick nap, hit the reset button, and wake up ready to serve my other client.

Before I laid down, I made a suggestion to myself, “When I wake up from this nap, I’ll be in a much better mood, and I won’t be thinking any negative thoughts.”

As I drifted off I told myself all the thoughts that I knew were actually going to get me in the right way of thinking…

“Life happens for you, not to you.”

“What’s meant to be, is meant to be. What’s not meant to be, is not meant to be.”

“No one is out to get you, if you were in his position you’d do the same thing.”

Woke up, and lo and behold, the negative thought pattern was gone.

I had moved on to acceptance and I went to go have a fantastic call with my other client.

I went to the gym, got a fantastic pump, and the rest of the day was pretty smooth sailing.

Writing this post I also just realized that I literally didn't think any negative thoughts for the rest of the day.

So there were a few things I did there to help get me in a positive mood…

First, I let myself feel my emotions and I didn’t gaslight myself for experiencing them.

I was bummed out because I was really excited about this project and it was a massive financial opportunity.

There is nothing irrational or wrong with the fact that this upset me, it makes perfect sense.

Sometimes you just need to let your emotions flow.

Now, I am not saying to take them out on other people…

What I am saying is that it’s okay to feel your emotions, experience them, and observe them by yourself.

Because just ignoring them, bottling them up, or shaming yourself for experiencing them isn’t all that helpful.

If it’s really bad and you need to talk to someone, I understand that…

But I think you’re better off dealing with it yourself, you’ll make yourself stronger in the long run.

Second, I went ahead and checked my schedule and picked an activity that I felt would help me reset my mood effectively.

If I had 2 or 3 hours before my next call, I would’ve gotten a workout in…

If I had 15 minutes, I would’ve cranked out a quick arm workout and got my body moving while listening to some Daft Punk…

But I had an hour, I was tired, and I know I always feel better after a nap, so I chose a nap.

If it wasn’t hot as balls outside, I probably would’ve gone on a walk with my dog and turned on some Earl Nightingale or Napoleon Hill to fill my mind with some positive thoughts…

And last but not least, I made a subconscious suggestion to myself to pair with my reset activity…

“When I wake up from this nap, I’ll be in a much better mood, and I won’t be thinking any negative thoughts.”

You can do this with literally anything and I think you’ll be shocked how well it works.

“After this workout, I’ll have the idea I’m looking for.”

“After this walk, I’ll know what to do differently”

And so on…

The key is to get yourself into a trance state, and then from there just make the suggestion.

There are tons of ways to get yourself into a trance state, but I’ll have to touch on it another time.

That’s how I was able to get myself back in the groove and thinking the right thoughts.

I think as you become more and more intentional with your thoughts and conscious of the emotions behind them…

The amount of time that a bad mood and negativity take up decreases.

These are just some tools that I think accelerate the shift back to a good mood.