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Let me guess… You’ve got a successful business or maybe you’ve got a high-paying career… You’ve created a little paradise for you and your family… Nice home… Fun lifestyle… You provide for your family and you pay the bills… From the outside looking in, you’re a total success. But let’s be honest, you’re struggling to make your marriage work. Right? Look, in this video, I’m going to share with you a strategy hundreds of men have used to help turn things around. They’ve transformed their problematic, sexless, dull marriages into peaceful, passionate, and loving marriages. WITHOUT counseling or therapy. Yeah, you heard me right… If you listen to what I have to say in this video, you’ll never have to listen to a therapist ask you “why do you feel that way” a thousand times… And you’ll never have to sit there with a marriage counselor siding with your wife for a full hour that you paid for… So just listening to this video could save you thousands of dollars… And god knows how much wasted time. So look man, at this point your wife has probably said one of these statements to you… “I can’t stand you” "I can't do this anymore" "I cheated on you" "I love you but I’m not in love with you" "I want to separate" "I need some space to figure things out" Or even "I want a divorce" If she hasn’t said that, chances are she’s probably thinking it, and you know it. And let me guess, you’re trying to fix the problems you two are experiencing in some capacity… But every effort you make goes completely unnoticed by your wife. She just wants to point out everything you’re doing wrong. She doesn’t want to appreciate the fact that you’re providing for her… Or how hard you work to create this lifestyle for her… She doesn’t want to notice anything. And because of that you don’t feel valued or respected as a man. Right? Which is probably causing back-and-forth pointless arguments… And as a result, your marriage feels more like a contractual obligation than a passionate and intimate bond between two people. Yeah, I’ve been there, I know what it’s like. And I know what you’re thinking… What the hell does the tattoo guy know about fixing marriages? I know I don’t look like it, but I have just as much if not more clinical experience than most therapists. And here’s the mic drop, I can honestly say that most of them are completely useless and a waste of time. I’ve put in over 20,000 clinical hours and have spent over 10 years helping tens of thousands of men solve the same problems you’re going through. Why? Because I was tired of watching men’s marriages fall apart because the therapy process wasn’t working. Dude you don’t need to spend thousands of hours venting about your life story to fix your marriage. In fact, if you can solve ONE specific problem that I’m going to lay out for you in this video… Practically every problem you’re experiencing is going to fade away. Here’s my promise to you… Suspend your disbelief, listen to what I have to say, and I guarantee that your intimacy and spark with your wife are going to be stronger than ever before… The arguments and tension are going to become practically non-existent… And the trust your wife once had in you is going to be restored in full. And my promise doesn’t stop there… Fixing this problem that you probably haven’t given much thought to is going to help transform all of your relationships. With your kids… With your friends… With your coworkers or employees… With your family, and so on. But for this video, let’s just focus on you and your wife. Okay, so let me introduce myself… My name is Tim Arrigo. And for a very long time, I was a liar and a fraud. Who I presented myself as to the world, was not who I really was. I was living two lives, the Tim everyone wanted me to be… And then who I really was. I had my vices, I made my mistakes, and I had my fuck ups. But most importantly, I had no control over my emotions. As a result, my first and second marriage ended in divorce. That’s what brought me to the clinical setting with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, I knew I had problems, and I wanted to fix them myself. And like I said, I logged about 20,000 hours of clinical practice over a ten-year period. Towards the end of that, I started helping married men to NOT end up in the same situation I found myself in… And here’s the thing, I saw a common pattern amongst most of those men which I’m positive you’ll be able to relate to. As a man, you want to be successful in your career or your business because you want to be the provider. That’s just what you do, right? And in order to do that, you kind of have to act like this hard-headed version of yourself. You can’t accept failure, you can’t accept problems, you have to succeed, you have to solve the problems. Right? Emotions don’t really have a place in a business or in the workplace… When you have employees or coworkers depending on you… When you’re the leader… When everyone is looking up to you or depending on you… You can’t show any signs of weakness because then the entire team or company is going to start to panic. You have to ignore everything you’re feeling and push through whatever obstacle you’re experiencing. But here’s the thing man… This closed-off hard-headed forceful version of you maybe helps you succeed in the world of business or work… But that's not going to work in a relationship with a woman. It's like trying to fit a square peg through a round hole, it doesn’t work because marriage requires a lot more from you emotionally. You can’t push through the problems in your marriage. It doesn’t matter whether it’s your wife being upset about the dishes… Or whether it’s an argument over something you said at dinner… Whatever the problem is, you have to realize that the “push through” mindset which helps you succeed in business is NOT going to work with your wife. If anything, it’s just going to cause her to completely disconnect from you, and that’s why you’re experiencing issues in the first place. If you take anything away from this video, here’s what it should be… Whenever an argument breaks out… Whenever she starts bickering or complaining… Whenever tension starts to build… You need to downshift. Just like a car, where you shift the gears down to slow down… You need to do the same when you’re trying to solve a problem with your wife. When business problems pop up you probably upshift and move straight into action mode. Right? That’s not going to work here. You need to slow down and ask yourself… Am I trying to resolve this situation or am I trying to be right? Trying to be right is just your ego acting up. And look, ego isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it’s probably the main reason you’re successful in your career or business. But with your marriage, you have to remove the ego from the conversation because it’s what causes most of your problems. Because when you can remove your ego, you can actually downshift… You’ll be able to start RESPONDING instead of REACTING. Responding means we’re being deliberate in what we choose to say… Reacting means we’re blurting out the first thing that comes to mind, which usually is going to cause us to say something we regret. But more than anything, reacting doesn’t allow you to properly communicate with your wife so you can SOLVE the problem at hand. But that’s the second problem most guys run into… They don’t really have all that great of communication skills when it comes to their marriage. I learned from my dad that being a man meant you were supposed to bottle up what you felt, act tough, and not let stuff affect you, just be strong, and don’t let anyone in. Where does being able to communicate how I’m feeling in a calm rational way fit into that equation? It doesn’t. So look man, it’s not your fault that you’re unable to effectively communicate with your wife, chances are no one taught you how to do that. But it is your responsibility to fix this. And it starts with simply slowing down… Removing your ego from the situation… Taking a moment to collect your thoughts… And responding instead of reacting. But how do you make slowing down your base instinct instead of impulsively blowing up? How do you manage your emotions and not break character in front of your wife? What do you say to help resolve the different conflicts that pop up? Well, those are the questions that lead me to creating the Inside Out Method. This is a systematic approach to conflict resolution and communication that’s different than most of the stuff you’ll read about online. The Inside Out Method focuses first on solving your own internal problems… Before we go and try to solve the problems in your marriage. Because how can we fix anything outside of you if we don’t fix you first? If we want to fix our marriage and bring back our wife’s intimacy so you don’t need to go anywhere else for attention and love… If we want to show our kids what a healthy relationship looks like so they don’t grow up with an intense amount of trauma to carry around… If we want to stop lying to ourselves and to the world so we can live life without the feeling of being a fraud… We have to fix your internal world first. Your inner conversation. Your self-image. Your triggers. Your emotions. Your world view. You need to understand all of these if you want to be able to actually pause when a conflict inevitably appears so you can shift from reacting to responding. We’re changing the man who shows up to the conversation FIRST… Because ignoring your internal world and focusing entirely on the external is no different than building a house and not setting the foundation… The second a storm hits, you’re fucked. You’re going to blow up and lash out at your wife… And the worst version of you is going to come out. The Inside Out Method has worked wonders for hundreds of men… They’ve gone from short-fused versions of themself who would get sucked into these reactive episodes with their wives… To now becoming this stoic version of themselves that doesn’t let the external world change how they act. They’re deliberate in how they respond. This methodology helps you reprogram yourself to become a man who’s more in control of his actions, emotions, and thoughts in this world. And I’ve seen it work wonders for hundreds of men and their families… INSERT TESTIMONIALS And now, I’d like to help it work wonders in your life. That’s why I started The Total Breakthrough Academy which helps men implement The Inside Out Method into their own life. This isn’t just about your marriage… Although that is our first focus… This is about becoming a better communicator and someone who’s more in control of their thoughts, feelings, actions, and the words they say. Think about how that would affect all areas of your life… Your business or career… Your relationship with your kids… Your ability to network and meet new people… All of these things improve when you improve. This isn’t like a therapy program where you’re just going to talk about how you feel while someone nods and takes notes… This is a program where you talk about how you feel and what’s going on, get feedback, and are told how to fix the problem. Yes, unlike traditional therapy, I’m going to tell you to do this, say this, and boom the problem will be solved. My goal is that eventually, the style of conflict resolution I teach will start to become an ingrained habit for you. Like I said earlier, I started this program because I felt like it was bullshit to see that it would take several months or even years in traditional therapy settings for married men to understand why they were experiencing their problems. And there were almost never any solutions being given to these men, which just made the problem worse. That’s why I focus on a streamlined 90-day approach… For the first 30 days, we focus on excavating. This means we helping you dig up all the internal issues you’re having that are causing your external problems… And we start to help you get laser-focused on who you need to become to fix all of the problems you’re experiencing in your marriage. After that, the next 30 days are focused on engineering. This is where we give you resources, frameworks, and tasks that actually help you become a better communicator and show up as the best version of you. This is where the rubber meets the road and we start to implement everything you’ve been learning about conflict resolution and communication skills. And the final 30 days are all about emerging. In this final stretch, we’re showing you how to integrate this new version of yourself into your everyday life. The version of you that’s thinking the right thoughts, saying the right things, and acting in a way that helps transform your marriage entirely. This is a custom-tailored coach-guided program… It's designed to help solve the problem internally… So you can then go and solve the external problems… And here’s the thing brother, this is what actually gets you what you’re looking for… Because just focusing on the external solutions will cause the same problems to keep popping up over and over again… How can the problems ever go away if you don’t change as a person? So look, I’d like to invite you to join us in this program but truth be told this isn’t for everyone… Unlike a lot of programs, groups, or therapists out there, I don’t work with everyone because I can’t help everyone. I only want to work with guys that I know will be able to see a total transformation in themselves, their family’s life, and their overall day-to-day life… So I’d like to invite you to fill out an application to hop on a free breakthrough call so we can see if you’re a good fit to join The Total Breakthrough Academy. Assuming you are a good fit, and that we can help you with what you’re going through right now… I’d love to extend an offer for you to join. Brother, right now there are a few paths in front of you… You totally could ignore everything I’ve said in this video and be reminded of it the next time you and your wife get into a fight… You could try and figure everything out on your own, which I don’t doubt you could do, I’m just saying it took me 10 years… Or… If you’re ready to get rid of those behaviors that you know aren’t serving you… If you’re ready to stop causing internal and external harm to the people around you… If you’re ready to be able to get control over your emotions so you can get control over all the other areas of your life… You could click the button below… Fill out an application… And I’ll hopefully see you on a call. Alright, all the best, hope to talk to you soon.