The Philosophy Of A Superhuman Father

About 3 weeks ago I started a coaching program with Wes Watson, and it’s been amazing thus far, it’s really helped me unlock a lot of the consistency I’ve been trying to create for a while.

This ability to create consistency came from an understanding of Wes’ core principle: “It’s not about you.”

More on that later…

Wes threw some testimonials up on his story the other day of some of the different people who had been through his program, and one of the people he posted was Kyle Carnohan.

Kyle instantly caught my attention because his username on IG was @superhumanfathers and being that one of my main goals in life is to become a father, I instantly knew that I had to talk to this guy.

Looking through his profile I saw someone who not only was coaching fathers on how to get in the best shape of their life but also how to show up better for their wives and kids.

So I reached out to him, told him I’d love to chat, and a few days later we were on the phone.

I started off by giving Kyle some context, telling him about my journey, and how I want to talk to men who have the life that I want so I can better understand who I need to become in order to set myself up for success.

Kyle more than willingly shared TONS of wisdom bombs with me, some of which I would like to share with you.

One of the main topics we discussed was the nature of sacrifice, and how if you stack more sacrifices, you’ll stack more fulfillment in your life.

I think most young men are scared of this because it requires you to take on inconvenience, and when you’re young, almost everything is about you: your desires, your wants, your circumstances, and so on.

It’s childish.

Life’s not about being the best version of you for you.

It’s about being the best version of yourself so you can give that to others.

If I could go back and give my younger self one piece of advice, it would be exactly that.

Would’ve saved me so much time and made life so much simpler.

So even though someone can look like a man, walking around with muscles, a beard, tattoos, and a deep voice…

They still can act like a total child because their entire worldview is based on selfishness.

Kyle also talked about how in marriage, you give everything to someone because you want to carry them, you want to provide for them, and give them the man you’ve spent years working on.

To truly give your partner EVERYTHING…

And to need nothing from them…

To have your entire relationship centered around the question of “How can I serve you?”...

Seems like one of the highest frequencies you can create in life because you’re acting out the concept of self-transcendence, which is the same concept that Christ acted out.

Now if you told me this maybe 6 months ago, I would’ve told you, “Oh that’s simping bro”

Not quite.

Simping is when you act like her little doormat because you desperately need something from her, usually sex.

Remember, the key concept here is you need nothing from your partner but you give them everything.

I think the best way to have a successful relationship is that both partners think this way.

Being a sacrificial man is not something you do with just anyone, it has to be the right partner, otherwise, you’re spending all of this energy on someone who won’t even appreciate you.

And look, of course, you’re going to stray from this…

I see it currently with the woman I’m pursuing, sometimes I get a little selfish and start thinking about only myself.

But this is where you have to correct the behavior.

The second you hear those selfish thoughts pop up, you need to deal with them.

Kyle and I both have those moments, and we both make a decision to beat that weak, selfish, and insecure version of ourselves into the ground.

Hit burpees, go on a run, get up extra early, make your life more difficult to make sure that version of you doesn’t even get a say inside of your inner council.

I’ve only recently started doing this, Kyle’s been doing it for god knows how long, he’s about 20 years older than me.

But seeing the life he has helps me understand that this is 100% the path to follow.

Weakness doesn’t get a vote.

Selfishness doesn’t get a vote.

Insecurity doesn’t get a vote.

Whenever any of those traits pop up, it’s imperative that you make the conscious effort to signal to your mind, “we don’t do that around here.”

There was so much value on that call, but I’ll leave you with one final bit of wisdom that Kyle shared with me…

He said, “Your kids will inherit your weakness.”

And if that’s not enough to help you see why the difficult path is the one to walk, I don’t know what is.